Yes, yes, and yes to all that you wrote. I moved my mother in with me and took care of her for the last 20 months of her life as she went downhill, finally reaching a point where she couldn't get out of bed. It was constant diapers, cleaning sheets, trying to feed her, etc. She lived to be 102. I'm glad I took care of her because she never wanted to go into a nursing home and she was a good mother. But caregiving is hard on a marriage, on sibling relationships, and everything else, especially when you're in your sixties. I hold Caregiving seminars at our church now. We have guest speakers from hospice, from care facilities, psychologists and lawyers who talk about options and some of the problems people face, followed by a question answer session and various other resources.