I truly admire your loyalty, faith and love for your wife. Yours is a decision no one else can make. None of our parents, mine or my husbands, left their home for a retirement community. My father-in-law took care of his wife until she died, then lived by himself for the next 14 years until he died in his own bed at 92.

My mother took care of my mother in their home until he died at 92, then she lived there by herself until she turned 100, at which time I moved her in with me for her final 20 months.

My other relatives, for the most part, died at home. I had one uncle who moved into a retirement community with my aunt, who was 20 years older than him. When she passed away in her nineties, he moved back out and into a house. He's now remarried to a younger woman and they travel a lot. He's in his eighties now.

A friend of ours along with his wife, who had dementia, was moved into retirement living by a daughter who didn't ask them...just moved them. The home subsequently moved her into Memory Care and he was not allowed to be with her. They were also not allowed to see each other or have visitors for a long time because of Covid lockdowns and this affected his memory. The price was also doubled, from $6,000 to $12,000 a month because of the two rooms.

Pray a lot about it, as I know you will, and then follow your word from God and your instincts.