Great writing, Dan! Nobody’s mentioned this one thing as a reason for having kids: you actually look forward to growing old because the kids are on their own and you’re finally free! Truthfully, I wouldn’t trade my kids and grandkids have enriched my life immensely, but I distinctly remember my husband’s face going white as flour when I told him (at a bar after work) that I was accidently and unexpectedly pregnant.
Having or not having kids is neither right nor wrong. It’s just preference. And there’s plenty of time to decide, especially if you look to my father as an example. He was 42 when he married my mom and they started their family.