Great post and maybe my experience will help you feel optimistic about your children's future. My daughter was combative, determined and headstrong. For her art project at school, she chose heavy machinery. My son was sweet and sensitive and adored me, his mama. Now they are grown and with her fierce determination, she has fostered and adopted hard to handle children. My son is a wonderful, sweet father to his 4 children, including his total acceptance of their autistic one. God has used their special dispositions and personalities with wonderful results.