First of all, I think your children sound lovely and I hope you find great joy without depression and are on the way to a good relationship with your mother. However, I think people are going to insult others no matter what, regardless of the gender issue, and that we should not let it adversely affect us so much that we leave a party. It’s on them, not us. I don’t have any gender issues, but people say catty things. Once a “friend” told me, “I thought you were dumb cause you didn’t talk much.” Many other times, before I lost weight, I was ridiculed for being fat. At age 32, when my children were young and I felt I was looking good, somebody at a party said, “Do you have any grandchildren yet?” The list goes on, because that’s life. God says “Judge not lest you be judged by the same measure,” so I try to cut people some slack and forgive them if they judge me. Then I go ahead and enjoy the party.